Why Moms Need to Be in Photographs
How many times do you take photographs of your children? If you are like most moms, your answer is tons. But, usually, one thing is missing - YOU! Where is mom in the photos? Mom is most likely the one behind the camera and never in the pictures.
How sad to think when your children look through their childhood photos years from now and only see them or them with dad but ask, "Where's mom?"
Sadly, that's true of my family photos from when I was a child. There are very few, and I mean, very few photos of my sister and I with my mom or even with my mom and dad together in a photo. So, when I grew up and had a family of my own, I always made sure I was in several photos when taking pictures of my children. Photos have always been important to me and I wanted to be in them with my children. Also, when my parents were still living, I made sure we always took photos together. The tripod is my friend!
When you are not in the photos, your history as a mother isn't being documented. You are everywhere in the lives of your children as they are growing up by playing with them, helping with school projects, going on family vacations and cheering them on at sporting events, but usually not present in their documented history.
I would have loved seeing my mother in pictures with my sister and I. However, she told me she didn't stand being photographed. When I became an adult and started taking pictures at family gatherings, it was always a struggle to get her to be in them. But, I made her because she knew how important it was to me to have those memories to look at years later and to show them to my own children as they grew older. Now, that I'm a grandmother, I always make sure I take photos with my grandchildren - memories for me and memories for them.
Today, the majority of moms want to capture everything that is happening in the lives of their children, yet are the ones behind the camera and never with their children in the photographs. Don't be "that" mom. Be in the photographs with your children. It is so easy to do so now with cameras having self-timers and using a tripod or even just using your phone and taking a selfie. Be in the photos with your children! Don't worry that you may not look "picture perfect." Motherhood is never perfect and capturing raw, natural moments will be cherished because it depicts real life - what was happening right then and, therefore, will bring back wonderful memories as you and your children go back and look through that album or box of photographs.
It's great to have professional portraits taken, but it's also just as important for you as the mom to capture those everyday moments with your children and be in the photos with them. Capturing the good, the bad and the ugly of everyday life will represent a true life story of their childhood. That's reality - in its rawest form that should be documented.
Believe me. You will cherish these portraits forever as will your children and generations to come. The photos you take of just your children, are for you. The photos you take of your children with you, are for them.
They will always remember how much they were and still are loved.
Patti specializes in lifestyle Maternity, Fresh 48 and Newborn photography and now families. If you are ready to book or chat about your photo session with Patti at DreamWorld Photography, click the "Book A Call" box below or call Patti directly at 941.405.3309.
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I LOVE this! It’s so important to exist in photos as a mother. I too think about the day I’m not here. One day all my kids will have of me are photographs. And I want those photos to bring them some level of comfort while they grieve. I want those photos to remind them of how much I love them, how much I adore them and how much I respect them. I also want them to see me as a woman. More than a mother, I am a person they can grow up to be like!
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